Right off the bat; Mr. Stephen R. Covey tells us in his book, “The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People,” that it’s never really a question of changing other people and their behaviors but more a question of changing ourselves. Is your career going well while your social or family life suffers? Is your marriage falling apart or perhaps your kids aren’t willing to listen to you? Perhaps; no matter what you do, nothing you do or say seems to help a loved one in a difficult situation? Continue reading We Will Start With The Inside Out Approach: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Under this heading Stephen Covey explains to us that he had studied success material that had been published in the United States of America from 1776 forward. He tells us that he noticed in this material that up until about World War One the material taught success principles that were based on things like, integrity, humility, loyalty and patients. Prior to World War one; we are told by Mr. Covey that other things along those lines were emphasized, which would be considered traits of character rather than personality, as well. Continue reading The Personality and Character Ethics: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
The philosophy here is that the personality based teachings of the past fifty years, although useful and important to some extent, are only secondary and short term solutions that do not work over a long period of time. Thinking positive, knowing how to manipulate people into liking you or doing what you need them to do for you (or even each other) is certainly useful, “Yes.” However, when it comes to enjoying long lasting relationships it is who you are (your character) that will make for far greater Cinergy in a relationship between two people of quality integrity than any teaching based upon personality or social imagery could ever hope to achieve.
“So “what is a Paradigm,” you may ask? Under this heading we discover that it is a model or map. With regard to people Paradigms are internalized maps or models based on our own life experiences. Continue reading The Power of a Paradigm: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People.
A paradigm shift takes place when your perception of a situation changes. For example; if a guitar instructor were to ask a student to reverse rolls and teach them the scale they’d been working on, as if the student were the one giving the lesson, this would encourage some students to become better learners. Continue reading The Power of a Paradigm Shift: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Sometimes it takes a little courage in order to see a person or situation differently. This is because “we” need to be different. We need to learn to change our thinking in order to look at something in a new way.
Principles are natural universal laws that have turned up continually in civilizations throughout history. It doesn’t matter what religion a person is, or what culture they live in. These principles are natural laws (like fairness) that will break us if we continue to ignore them. Continue reading The Principle-Centered Paradigm: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Under this header; Stephen Covey talks about how the Personality ethic being widely taught over the past fifty years is really nothing more than a get rich scheme, especially on an emotional level. He talks about how many folks who look for a quick fix to their problems and behaviors do not realize that it’s not going to work in the long term. He says it will not work in the long term because these remedies will not get to the real root of the problem. Continue reading Principles of Growth and Change: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Here Stephen writes that our view of problems is the problem. He explains that this is because we are more or less seeking an external source of the resolution rather than sitting down and being brutally honest with ourselves. What’s being suggested here is that perhaps we already have within ourselves the solutions that we are seeking.
Under this heading Covey writes to us that in order to have the relationships we want in our lives we have to become “ourselves” what we seek in others. He tells us that this must come first if we are to expect others to respond to us in the ways we desire. For example; if we want to be trusted we must be worthy of trust. That makes sense, “Right?” Bottom line; become what you want to be treated as. The only way to do that is to work on yourself inside!
Covey writes that habits are what express our character or lack thereof. They are automatic portrayals of who we are. If we want to change our character we can do this through making the huge commitment required to change our habits. Yes folks! It’s true! Bad habits at any age can be broken. FYI: You really can teach an old dog new tricks, too.
Covey defines habits as the junction point between Skill, knowledge and desire. He writes that… Continue reading Habits Defined: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Mr. Stephen R. Covey explains to us here; being independent is a good thing but it should never be one’s ultimate goal in life. This is because everything from the eco system on our planet, to society itself, is based upon functioning interdependently; in cooperation with others. Continue reading The Maturity Continuum: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Under this heading the PPC Balance principle is introduced. The first P stands for the production of a result that is desired. PC stands for production capability or, in other words, “The asset that is producing the desired result.” We are told that most paradigms tend to focus on the desired result. The trouble with this however is that no attention is paid to ourselves (the producing asset) in this process of thinking. What is alluded to here is that, in order to get out of life the things we want, we need to work on the basic core principles within our character.
Mr. Covey shares with us in his book that there are three kinds of assets in the basic scheme of things. These assets are; human, financial and physical. How we take care of our physical assets, car, house tractor, etc., will directly impact our financial asset, money in our bank account. If you aren’t sure of what I mean just talk to someone who has driven a car over thirty-six thousand miles without ever changing the oil or filter! Continue reading Three Kinds of Assets: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
When it comes to organizations; focusing too much on the end result or product is highly destructive. This intense focus wouldn’t produce the desired results in the business world any more than doing so would in a marriage or friendship. Make everything about the bottom line and failure will often be (and generally is) the end result. There must be a balance between maintaining the equipment that produces the product, or making sure the staff of an establishment is treated the way the owner of the business desires the customer to be treated by his employees. It’s important to insure that the PPC Balance is maintained in organizations in order for the organization to be effective.
It is stated here that The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is written to be used more as a companion than a book. If one wanted to read it through first to get a feel for what’s there that’s cool. However, Mr. Covey suggests that we keep the book at hand for reference; making it easier to incorporate the habits found in his book into our daily lives. Continue reading How to Use This Book: Part 1: Paradigms And Principles: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.