Before getting into Habit Four; Stephen R. Covey writes that people who are proactive and independent will not have a problem establishing quality and long lasting relationships. He indicates that if we’ve gotten ourselves into a relationship that we’re unhappy with; it might be because we were not working from a solid core of values and principles, behaving our way into a relationship which was doomed to fail from the get go because it went against natural universal principles. He reminds us here, too, that we first need to learn to be independent before we can be interdependent; sharing our lives with other people.
We all know about the kinds of bank accounts one can open at a bank. However, Mr. Covey is writing here about the type people have with us and we with others. Continue reading The Emotional Bank Account: Part 3: Public Victory: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Understanding another person is certainly one of the most important emotional deposits we can all make into the emotional account we have with another person. It’s not just getting to know them that is going to do the trick. It is really knowing them and being interested in what is important to them that does it. However, Stephen writes here that what they are interested in has to be as important to us as what they themselves are to us. It’s not enough to simply show interest in their interests. It needs to be just as genuine as our interest in them as a person. Continue reading Deposit Suggestions: Part 3: Public Victory: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
We have all been in the situation where people do things through action or decision that displease us. However, I’m pretty sure that we can all agree that the action doesn’t always make the person. Unfortunately, however, the natural tendency is to base our feelings about a person upon the action they have made that caused us so much disquiet. Hence the term, “Conditional Love,” is born. Continue reading The Laws Of Love And Life: Part 3: Public Victory: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Mr. Covey writes; if people learn to see problems with other people as opportunities to further build a relationship, the whole dynamic of the interaction changes. In short; if one approaches a problem with another person from the angle that it’s just another situation that needs to be solved, rather than seeing it as an opportunity to build a relationship, the results are mediocre at best, if good at all. Stephen tells us that this is true in both business and personal life.
At this point in his book; Mr. Stephen Covey tells us that we need to keep emotional bank accounts in mind as we move on to read more about public victory. He explains that this will play an important part in our interactions with other people as we move forward, starting with Habit Four! Are you ready? Get set! Ok! Let’s Go!
Thinking win/win is a key component when it comes to interpersonal leadership abilities. Mr. Covey explains to us that win/win doesn’t set up situations where the rewards for cooperating with others invite competition. Actually, based on what’s written under this heading it is clear that encouraging competitive behavior at home or at work isn’t going to bring unity and togetherness.
Win/Win is one of six different kinds of human interactions we may already be used to experiencing. The five other kinds of interactions are win-lose lose-win, lose-lose, win or simply put, “No Deal!” Continue reading Six Paradigms Of Human Interaction: Habit 4: Think Win Win: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Well… In a lot of games and sports the Win-lose option may be the best thing because in that area someone does have to win in order for someone else to lose. It can be no other way. In other situations you may take the lose-win option (by letting them win) just to affirm the other person’s importance to you if something is not able to be worked out that’s agreeable to both of you; like in a marriage for instance.
Mr. Covey tells us; although it’s not always a viable option to be able to deal with situations via the win win or no deal approach; it can be very freeing emotionally. Basically what one does in this scenario is approach a situation with the frame of mind that there will be a decision made in that particular circumstance that is agreeable to everyone involved, or there will be no deal at all. Continue reading Win-Win Or No Deal: Habit 4: Think Win Win: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Stephen Covey explains that a successful win-win attitude rests on the foundation of character. However, a component of character, maturity, is highly crucial to an effective win-win attitude type approach . Continue reading Five Dimensions Of Win-Win: Habit 4: Think Win Win: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
As we’ve just talked about; Character is the main foundation of having a successful win win attitude. If you’ve got serious character flaws win win being a successful principle in your life to operate from is going to turn out to be, simply put, “No Deal!” Continue reading Character: Habit 4: Think Win Win: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.
Not everyone is easily sold on the concept of win-win approaches or attitude. Many people find it difficult to believe that approaching personal or even business matters in this way is reasonably possible, let alone acceptable; tending to really put up a fight. However, once you (assuming you’ve adopted win-win as your personal philosophy) have demonstrated to them that you are sincere in working out a common goal, or solution, that is beneficial to both of you; a major contribution to your emotional bank account with them will have been made. Also, because of this, they will more than likely begin working with you rather than against you in the end.
Once workers are given a clear picture of what they are expected to do; some companies have their staff evaluate themselves and sign an actual agreement that each employee helps to draft. Some basic guidelines are usually set as a part of this practice. Continue reading Win-Win Performance Agreements: Habit 4: Think Win Win: Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Book Chapter Summary.