When you are a blind guy like me; there can sometimes be a fair amount of difficulty in reading women’s physical cues. But, there is a solution in the house that can help to figure out what the deal is with those really touchy feely flirtatious types of women that certainly could work to your advantage, especially when it comes to sorting out which ones really might be interested in dating you, or not. It starts off with a technique that is something which already comes naturally to some of us blind gentlemen when dealing with issues where self-advocating is required.
It’s called, “Mirroring!” Yes! At least with the women here in Sussex County New Jersey; mimicking their own touchy feely behavior back at them, even their attitude, certainly can help to clarify things.
“True!” If you are a blind dude who has only ever made it a point to specialize in mirroring other people’s moods out of necessity; if you take the time to read about the psychology behind mimicking the behaviors of others (particularly where Christian Dating is concerned), you will see that many of the same principles apply. Sure, touching someone the same way they touch you, for many of us starting out, certainly will feel awkward.
However, if a girl keeps putting her hands on you every time she’s near you during a verbal exchange just for effect; she’s going to back off fast with both the physical contact plus spoken overtures in general should you begin to get a little overtly physically touchy feely yourself in response. But if a woman doesn’t back off with the touching when you respond by touching her in the same places she’s touching you; you’ve got a clearer idea on how to steer the conversation in a direction which should reveal to you whether her interest is genuine, or, if she is just in the habit of acting like a Gutter Slut on a regular bases.
Hey! Let’s face it. The facial expressions and other physical cues most girls use to tip single guys off that they like them are not going to be recognized by any of us blind men. But by doing something as simple as touching someone’s shoulder, arm or hand for a split second can tell you all you need to know about a lady’s actual intent. However, it’s probably a good idea to keep your hands to yourself unless they’ve already begun touching you flirtatiously first. Just remember that, if you grab her butt or boobs, it really had better be an accident!
Of course, if you are truly serious about getting credible information on dating doing research should take you into a library at the very least; if not the Christian Dating section of your local book store. When you’ve begun researching how to read women’s cues in Ernest; you will discover that just about every author who has written material about social interaction supports the notion that touch and other body language often conveys far more in meaning than the spoken word.
So don’t take my word for it. Visit your favorite library or book store and check out the material they have on Christian Dating. If you are willing to make the effort to understand women, even if it’s just to find out how to land that first date for a start, you will be more likely to find the one who will stay.
And, “Yes!” Books, written by respectable Christian Authors that talk about body language and psychology will certainly help you on your way. You might even get a decent book list from your local church Pastor. So, take the opportunity to talk with him about it and see if he’s got some book titles to recommend for you, too, pertaining to dating Christian, today.