As a single guy myself; sometimes I can’t help feel a little tired when I look at the big picture with regard to dating here in Northern NJ. This is because it really gets to be a drag all of the time; having to be the one to make the first move to start a relationship, “Especially with the tendency of a majority of women here in Sussex County New Jersey to constantly play emotional mind games.”
So, yeah, “Some of us men do like it when a woman is the one doing the pursuing.” It makes for a nice change as long as she isn’t chasing us with a kitchen knife or something! “Seriously though,” when a woman asks a man out it lets us men know we’ve got a snowballs chance in hell with her.
It does take confidence for anyone to approach another human being about dating in any form because there is always the chance of being rejected. We all know rejection sucks. But if the answer is, “No,” the woman with the courage to ask a man out certainly has a better appreciation for what men go through when they are turned down by women; giving them an ability to operate with a bit more sensitivity and respect for men’s feelings.
It’s been my experience that those women who do put themselves out there and ask a man out are more likely to be clear as to what it is that they are after with the men they approach. Unfortunately though; many women expect to be asked out; feeling that they have a birthright to be treated in accordance with traditional standards when it is convenient for them. However, in a lot of cases, after they say “yes” to a guy they quickly turn things into a game that makes everything all about them; the attention “they” are given, the money that is spent on “them,” the care “they” receive, etcetera. For a guy in this situation, “This is very draining.”
Am I saying that women who are willing to risk rejection and ask a man out are less likely to be selfish? “Yes!” Unfortunately; these women are few and far between. So, my hat goes off to any girl, young or old, who is considering stepping outside the box to ask out the man of her heart’s desire.