If you are a single mom; It’s certainly understandable as to why you might be feeling like the deck is stacked against you, particularly where romance is concerned. Maybe you are even feeling a bit like used goods? After all; you are an unwed mother and that’s biblically not even a good thing, “Right?”
Personally, I made the choice a long time ago not to have children of my own. This is because the risk of passing my genetically inherited eye condition (Retinitis Pigmentosa) on to them would have been quite high. So, from where I sit, having a Vasectomy done at age 31 was a perfectly intelligent choice, and not one I’m ever likely to regret, either.
Have I ever really seen myself as the ideal paternal figure? “No.” And, to be honest, sometimes I still find myself on the fence as to whether or not I would want to enter into another relationship where children are a part of the package.
Maybe this is because I Learned the hard way; confident single women generally have better behaved kids. True! There are kids that are simply born hell raisers. But confident moms are able to keep a handle on situations as they arise, rather than throwing their hands in the air; giving up, or in, as the case may be.
I wish someone had clued me in to this above-mentioned fact early on. But… I eventually figured it out on my own. At least now; should I find myself falling for another single mother in future, I know what to watch out for. After all, Hind sight is twenty-twenty, “Right?”
Unfortunately; none of this changes the fact that a lot of single moms make tons of excuses for their children’s atrocious behavior, even though they often complain about it themselves. But, in a heartbeat, these very same women will suddenly turn around and use their child as an excuse for getting out of doing anything they don’t want to do. “And…” Don’t even get me started on the women who allow themselves to be victimized by their own kids; the child suddenly becoming the reason the men in Mom’s life are driven away.
Sadly; there are a lot of men who have been turned off to dating single mothers because of these kinds of women. This making it very difficult for the single moms who really do have it together.
But, thankfully for us, “The world is full of all kinds of people.” So, “Yes!” Of course, there are men out there who would marry a woman with children. It happens all the time.
In fact; some guys will even go the extra mile and legally adopt their wife’s children; all in an effort to make them feel as though they are one-hundred percent a part of the family. So, if you are a single woman with children and concerned that you aren’t ever going to find a man who will want to marry you, “Stop worrying about it!”