I’ve dated older. I’ve also dated much older! Of course, it is bound to cause a little friction in the family when you introduce your mother to your new girlfriend, especially when the girlfriend is only about 5 years younger than your mom.
Yup! I was once the 24-year-old son who introduced his 40-year-old girlfriend to his 45-year-old mother. When Mom question the wisdom in this… Well… My response was something to the effect of, “Just think of this as me getting the sex education I never got from those Marriage and Family classes in high school.”
If I had any questions about what I was doing with older women when I was younger… Well… It’s become clear to me over time; any notions about utilizing prescribed dating age limit formulas should be scrapped forever.
Perhaps this has something to do with reaching a new level of emotional and spiritual maturity. With the passage of time; I’ve become acutely aware of the fact that the only real relationships worth maintaining, on any level, are the ones higher intelligence leads me to engage in.
Some of us would refer to this higher intelligence as God. However, regardless as to how you see the world spiritually, if at all, the only way any of us should truly ever be going is the way God (universal intelligence) wishes for us to go, “Even where romance is concerned.”
Regardless of age; life will usually work out when we know we’re with the person we’ve been led to be with, rather than an individual of “our own” choosing. “True!” Sometimes it’s hard to tell when you’ve been led to be with someone by a larger than life kind of force. The lines can easily become blurred by our own chemistry and emotional state.
However, if one takes the time to look and see what is going on in the environment around us, “Beyond the focus of our affections,” we will know who’s really making things happen. When it’s us taking charge, little problems keep happening. They might not seem to be all that bad, especially when we are managing our affairs in a lust induced haze. But, things tend to go much smoother when we are moving in a universally acceptable direction.
“True,” society tends to have a problem with younger men sleeping with, dating and sometimes marrying older women. But, if you’re a 70-year-old guy married to a 34-year-old woman, “Society doesn’t really mind.”
Bottom line: Anyone can keep themselves out of hot water when looking for a significant other by simply recognizing that the need to look to a higher power for guidance is crucial to all of us. Relationships of any kind tend to last longer when you approach them in this way. While there is always a chance the relationship you were led into will fail anyway; because you let your recognized form of higher intelligence take charge, “You tend to win even when it seems at times like you’ve done nothing but lose.”