I shook my head this evening upon hearing an angry outburst from a neighbor’s apartment and wondered what any real woman would see in a man who uses pickup artist techniques that even a licensed professional would recognize as something out of a book like Tony Clink’s “The Layguide: How to Seduce Women More Beautiful Than You Ever Dreamed Possible (no Matter what You Look Like Or how Much You Make)”. But… I guess if you don’t mind your significant other attempting to dictate to you everything from who you should talk to while trying to control the content you view on your phone via spyware and other means, then it doesn’t matter, “Right?”
Who really likes having their boundaries violated like that though? They’re what keep us sane in relationships aren’t they? How can you expect to survive any relationship if you tolerate people who don’t respect you when you say or can’t say, “This is my space.”
When your partner is constantly checking your phone, getting all up in your business, and acting like they own you. That’s not love; that’s a red flag parade. And if they’re using spyware? That’s a whole new level of nope. As a licensed Mental Health Professional, she’s got to know that “Right?”
Our phones and laptops are supposed to make life easier, not be tools for someone’s control freak tendencies. If your significant other is more interested in your app history than your day, it’s time for a serious chat. That’s something everyone should know, “Isn’t it?”
I guess though that even if you’ve read up on healthy relationships or end up talking to people who’ve been there because of your profession it still might be hard to recognize when things are getting too be too much. I know from my own personal experience that it’s difficult to show your abuser to the door, even if you know deep inside it’s the right thing for you to do for your own safety and wellbeing. But I’ve done it. “Why can’t the licensed professionals?”
The situation isn’t my problem, “Yet.” But even still, just seeing how easily this young woman is clearly being manipulated… It’s really sad, especially given the fact that I know the profession she’s in. We can’t change other people no matter how much we love them. “They can only do that themselves.”
But… As I’ve already said, “It’s not my problem.” My biggest concern is though, given the proximity of her apartment to mine, “Someday it will be!”
But maybe there’s something I’ve missed here. Maybe all the drama is her way of manipulating him. Or… Maybe it’s all about role play and she’s the submissive dutifully pleasing her master. “Will I eventually be hearing whips and chains?”